How to give a blow job

I was watching an episode of a sit-com last night and in one scene a character was giving her boyfriend a blowjob when someone walked in. The person who walked in on the act (it was a very funny moment) had overheard the guy saying ‘watch your teeth’ and so gave the advice that you should put your lips over your teeth when you go down. And it seems to me that teeth are the main stumbling block when it comes to giving head. If you are lucky (or unlucky depending on how you look at it) to have false teeth then whip them out and your partner will be in for a real treat. But seeing a set of dentures in a glass by the bonking-bed can be a bit of a turn off, so what other techniques and tips are out there for you to try?

As it happens there are loads of helpful web pages, books and even accessories for you to get your hands on. ‘Nina Hartley’s Guide to Better Fellatio’ is available on DVD, for example, $29.95 from Babeland.com. She is a sex educator and porn star so knows what she’s talking about. Though heterosexual based, the same tips (excuse the pun) can be applied to guys but if you don’t want to view straight fellatio (the proper term for a blow job) then here are some ideas for you.

Make sure you’re comfortable. Don’t get into such a strange position that you get back or neck ache. There is the standard ‘on your knees with him standing’ position which is fine for him but not for your knees, so use a cushion or kneel on the bed. Better still get him to stand or kneel on the bed and you can then also stand. Try lying on your back and get him to kneel over you on all fours with his dick pointing down, like this you can also free up your hands to explore other parts of his body.

You don’t have to start hard. It’s also cool to take a soft cock in your mouth, play with it, kiss it, lick it and enjoy the sensation as it gets harder. This way you also get used to the length and girth of the thing slowly.

Talk. I know that’s difficult with a piece of meat in your mouth but I mean talk first. How does he want it? With spit, dry, with a condom on… Make sure he knows it’s ok to tell you if you’re not doing it to his satisfaction. (‘Watch your teeth!’ is acceptable.) And don’t forget that other areas ‘down there’ are also sensitive. You can work on the tip, the most sensitive pace, but you can also run your tongue and lips down his shaft, lick his nuts and beneath them and generally explore the entire area.

Other communication. Depending on your position it’s great for the guy getting the BJ to know that you are enjoying it as much as he. Look up at him and make eye contact when you can, that’s really sexy. Also make the appropriate noises to show you’re having a ball (another pun, sorry!) and enjoying the experience.

Take a break. Yes, it can get very wearing on your jaw to have it wide open for a length of time and the more it aches the more chance there is that you will want to relax it, leading to the scraping teeth syndrome. So don’t be afraid to take a break, get the cock out of your mouth and explore around it while your jaw recovers.

Some guys like to be in charge and it’s been said that the best way to give head is to simply open your mouth and let him do the moving: keep your head still and let him take control. Watch out for gagging if he gets too carried away and don’t forget that even though he’s thrusting, you can still use your tongue and lips to increase his pleasure.

And finally. Spit or swallow? Well, that’s up to you. But, however you finish his session, make sure he gives you the same in return, it’s only fair